Teaching Tolerance

New Zealand has had a real shock and a horrendous attack on Muslims. As a Nation we are all feeling very sad and shocked that this sort of attack can happen in our country. Our gun laws are changing.


We can teach our children to be understanding and tolerant, to be kind and loving. Often after adversity comes goodness – we are hearing wonderful words and seeing great deeds from our young people and we hope that they live in a more tolerant world in the future.


Principles to remember with children Model it.

Talking to your child about the importance of embracing difference and treating others with respect is essential, but it’s not enough. Your actions, both subtle and overt, are what she will emulate.


  1. Acknowledge difference. Rather than teaching children that we are all the same, acknowledge the many ways people are different, and emphasize some of the positive aspects of our differences – language diversity and various music and cooking styles, for example. Likewise, be honest about instances, historical and current, when people have been mistreated because of their differences. Encourage your child to talk about what makes him different and discuss ways that may have helped or hurt him at times. After that, finding similarities becomes even more powerful, creating a sense of common ground.


  1. Challenge intolerance. If your child says or does something indicating bias or prejudice, don’t meet the action with silence. Silence indicates acceptance, and a simple command – “Don’t say that” – is not enough. First try to find the root of the action or comment: “What made you say that about Sam?” Then, explain why the action or comment was unacceptable.


  1. Seize teachable moments. Look for everyday activities that can serve as springboards for discussion. School-age children respond better to lessons that involve real-life examples than to artificial or staged discussions about issues. For example, if you’re watching TV together, talk about why certain groups often are portrayed in stereotypical roles.


  1. Emphasize the positive. Just as you should challenge your child’s actions if they indicate bias or prejudice, it’s important to praise him for behaviour that shows respect and empathy for others. Catch your child treating people kindly, let her know you noticed and discuss why it’s a desirable behaviour.


I found this article on a Teaching Tolerance web site, I hope that you find it helpful.


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